“There’s no getting over it, you have to come through it.” – Some guy on Making the Band
Ok so let’s get past the fact that I watch Making the Band. They have cool dance moves, ok?! (And we all know how I feel about dancing…)
The scene: One of the girls was singing, and the vocal coach kept prompting her to make them feel what she was feeling…not just try to communicate it. As he pushed her and pushed her, she continued singing, but began to fight tears. “You have to bring the walls down,” he said. “Whatever it is…there’s no getting over it, you have to come through it.” The girl just hugged her knees as tears fell down her cheeks. The pain had been pushed away for so long that she refused to let it resurface.
My mind instantly perked up at that line. So many times when we go through things, we are told to get over it, move on, give it to God (or give it a rest). Get over it. Get over it.
I disagree. My new philosophy, thanks to Diddy and his crew, is come through it.
Yes, it is painful.
Yes, it may bring about even more hurt than you are feeling already.
Yes, it sucks.
But you can spend all your time on the other side of the fire, waiting for it to die down, looking for a way around, or hoping it will die.
Or you can come through it. You may emerge with scars. You may develop some calluses. But the next time you see a fire? You’ll feel scared, yes, knowing what is to come. But you will also feel confident, secure, knowing you have done this before.
We all have things that affect us deeply. Things that alter the paths of our lives. Things that create a fork in the road and choose for us which road we will take.
Coming through it is not fun. It is not easy. And it is not convenient.
But getting over it doesn’t work.
“The images that are carried about are burdensome, a burden for the weary.” (Isaiah 46:1)
So to tie this together…getting “over” something usually means shutting up about it and waiting for the pain to stop, while the images of the pain still dance in your head and the weight of the hurt slowly fuses itself to your back.
Coming through something means allowing yourself to feel the pain, forgiving, accepting the injustices, and leaving the images and the weight behind you. Not easy, and not natural. But quite necessary.
In my own life, I often have a choice. I can get over it, push the pain away, and distract my thinking. Or I can come through it. Fight. Work. And on the other side, be stronger and braver for it.